Understanding Anger

To understand anger, we need to look at its roots and shoots. It’s important to understand and actually accept we have that emotion rather than to suppress it, so we can work to create healthy boundaries of behaviour by taking responsibility for managing it ourselves.

We have control over nobody else’s behaviour, only our own, and we can learn to do this.


Beneath anger there are usually other emotions. Anger is a secondary emotion that follows on from others, such as feeling threatened, wronged, or hurt. We can also use anger to protect ourselves from uncomfortable feelings such as fear, shame, embarrassment, and depression. These emotions need to be understood, the reasons how and why they are there, to gain some awareness of what has happened to us.

It can be easy to experience anger, but not always the feelings